Interestring forum.

[fringey]

I know opposites CAN attract, but do they always? Not really. I find people are attracted to people who are generally like themselves, with similar interests. Of course, there is basic physical attraction which you can have for just about anyone. But, for a more deep and meaningful relationship, shared interests are generally what draw people together because they have a common ground to share.

Patrick
a.k.a. Fringey, The Fringe Element
"A life lived without passion is a life not lived."

[dallasoregon]

I've seen it happen for many people, it's new, interesting and full of possibilities.

[goddessluna]

`Sometimes yes and sometimes no. I know I'm not going to hold my breath about it, beside I think I am tired of the opposites.

[harvey6674]

`Based upon my experience, the attraction of opposites is best left in the realm of physics. Sure, someone quite opposite you may seem captivating for a while, but, if truly your opposite, your differences in character, morals, values, and aspirations can, and likely will, be more than the relationship can bear. Of course, you don't want someone exactly like you, either. The relationship tends to become too boring and predictable. For me, I find that someone with whom I share core values, ambitions, and desires, but who views the world from a different angle, someone with whom I can learn from and her from me, that we have just enough differences to keep one another's attention, but not so much so that those differences drive a wedge between us, works best.

[rafata]

`Scientifically speaking, opposites significantly only attract in the area of gender. And the correlation for neuroticism in stable relationships is also negative. For the rest of the traits that were looked into, it was same and same attract.

[shannontg]

`I don't think opposites attract in terms of romantic relationships. True opposites generally breed conflict, however complimentary characteristics have a better chance of creating a symbiosis. The important difference is that a compliment makes up for something the other lacks rather than conflicting with it. The relationship is parallel. For example, if one partner is a spendthrift and the other partner is a stingy bastard, they can reasonably help and balance one another. The spendthrift can teach the bastard how to have fun and indulge sometimes yet the stingy bastard would probably ensure that there was enough savings to indulge only when its really worth it. When the couple behaves this way and works together to compensate for the others shortcomings they are compliments. When the bastard beats the spendthrift at the end of the day because they no longer have a proverbial pot, they are opposites.

[voiddancer]

I am new here and this is my first post. Hope I can find the forms again and this thread. It is funny, but unfortunately I am serious lol

I think opposites attract each other, but they do present a lot of opposition to each other and the experience tends to be growth through conflict and friction.

I sort of wonder is we are not all really looking for completeness and unity. The continual search for that piece that is always missing, a longing for the perfect mate. As a old saying goes; “Love is all you need and all you need is Love.” It seems that Love is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation … The Heart is our best guide.

I this sense we are like split souls, looking for the other half that is a perfect match and the same in all ways. Like one soul in two bodies. Twine flames, which would be the same, not opposite.

Just thoughts on the Question … Have an Awesome day

Void Dancer